Men of the recent past did not do what men of today do. Men of the two previous generations worked hard and were not so sensitive to little children and women. They were to be served and they were. They had their own agendas and family was to follow.
Of course, I am talking about the men in the Middle East and South Asia, regions I have been exposed to since birth. But, I have also grown up with lots of westerners and yes, the men were different from what they are now in western societies too.
Women of my mother and grandmother’s times also had a lot to do. Look after several kids, wash clothes with hands, hardly get to see their own families ( true for many even today but not really..we have SKYPE!), cook big meals, either never had TV or if they did – few channels if not just one. They had to do a lot. No long hours of sleep. Not a lot of what women today have.
Men today earn more,give more and are much more sensitive. They are especially loving towards their children. A child today says ‘baba’ first. We said ‘mama’ first..
Men today work much harder and provide a lot more luxury and time to their families. Many don’t even demand their wives to cook and clean. Communication between husband and wife is very different. Men are caring even if they express differently..much more then the previous generations.
Women have homes with all amenities and even maids. Women today don’t have a child every other year. One or two for the majority. Look around. Smart phones, laptops and access to any of their relatives is a click away.
Then, why is there so much complaining? Why to the extent of protesting on global media? Why do I see so many women doing everything to be public figures? What voice does the world need to hear?
Please don’t get me wrong. I am genuinely curious!
Why are women in our societies angry and ready to fight for a cause which is not really a cause? What is the cause, in fact, if there is a cause? I understand raising a voice against discrimination, rape or oppression.. But, honestly, are most men oppressing their wives? Men of today? They get tears in their eyes if their child falls..they do everything to provide the best homes, transport, entertainment, luxury to their families. A majority does anyway. Heck, most men that smoke don’t even smoke at home because their wives don’t like it. This was not the case in our previous generation, yet those women never complained and even today, in their old age are smiling and doing All that they used to do. No, I don’t know any lady from my mother’s generation suppressing herself and not expressing what she feels. Most are contented.
Why are the women of our generation so distressed and unhappy even if they have no housework and just a kid or two? And, while they have all means and ways to be with their families and have husbands that genuinely care and are open to any discussion?
Are we an ungrateful generation of people that regardless of all the comforts we have, we are unhappy? And even more, most of us don’t really know what more we want!